Violence can be defined as extreme force, action intended to cause destruction, pain or suffering, widespread fighting, injustice or wrong while domestic violence is an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in intimate relationship (Prover
First Outline: FORMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Forms of domestic violence may include:
Physical violence: this include flogging, bullying, battering, stoning, strangling, pushing, kicking, slapping, punching, hitting, confinement, assault with weapons, destruction of victim’s personal property/possessions or threat to do so, and murder (Genesis 4:8).
Verbal abuse: this includes verbal threats or intimidations to gain compliance, instilling fear of further violence, yelling or screaming, constant harassment and name calling (1Samuel 20:30).
Sexual violence: this include sexual assault (forcing someone to participate in unwanted/unsafe or degrading sexual activity), sexual harassment (ridiculing another person to try to limit their sexuality), sexual exploitation (such as forcing someone into sex hawking) – 2Samuel 13:12-14.
Psychological violence: such as mocking, imitating, isolating, threatening, intimidating and exclusion from meaningful events (2Samuel 13:22,28-29).
Emotional violence: such as rejection, pretending not to notice one’s presence (Genesis 21:9-11).
Economic violence: this includes withholding economic resources (such as money), stealing from or defrauding a partner, withholding physical resources such as food, clothes, necessary medications or shelter from a partner or children, preventing a spouse from working or choosing an occupation (1Timothy 5:8).
Religious violence: this includes preventing one’s spouse from practising his/her religion or spiritual belief, forcing the children to be reared in a faith that a spouse has not agreed to, using a spouse’s religious or spiritual belief to manipulate him/her (Daniel 3:14,20).
Second Outline: CAUSES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Some immediate causes that can set off a bout of domestic violence are: stress, provocation by the spouse, economic hardship (such as prolonged unemployment), Emotional/psychological issues (depression, desperation, feelings of insecurity, suspicion and fear), character defects (jealousy, anger) alcohol and drug intake.
Other causes may include: complex issues (inferiority/superiority), failure to yield to divine instructions – Genesis 4:6-8, insincerity, failed expectations, undue interference from a third party, family background and environmental factors, sexual infidelity, spiritual attacks/generational curses.
If there is no peace in the home, the society will also be void of peace. Let us identify the root cause of violence in our families and deal with it prayerfully.